Realizing that my folks didn't know any better and truly believing that simple thought helped me forgive them. I blamed them for years. Every time I poured a drink and took a hit. Ultimately, they almost had nothing to do with my forgiveness. They never admitted any wrongdoing, and that's okay. It has to be, if I'm to stay free of resentment. Thanks for sharing some of your experience. I'll keep your brother in my thoughts that he gets it together. Stay strong and get stronger.