SL, I know how evocative dreams can be, that must have been tough, but it sounds to me like you have come a long way since your breakup! I think sometimes our subconscious just lags behind a little, trying to work things out in our dream life. I often dream of exes at times when I'm feeling lonely. Maybe you are at a point now where you have enough distance from your ex to think a little about whether there were red flags that you missed with him, and how you can do things differently next time in order to find a relationship that is more fulfilling? Wishing you peace!