You can take the first step and stop drinking. Do you drink everyday? Do you need detox? Does your husband work?
You're problems can be dealt with, but sobriety is what you need in order to handle all the issues. It won't be easy, but it can be achieved. Many people here have been in a similar spot and they were able to pull themselves out of what seemed like a deep, dark hole. Stick around here for support and help. Also, have you tried a program like AA? You may find that to be a good start. I checked the Nassau County AA site, and there are a number of meetings in and around Freeport.
Nassau Intergroup of Alcoholics Anonymous, Nassau County, New York