Hi, Bluewarning, and welcome to SR. I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation, but you've come to the right place for help.
The more you can read here, the more you'll learn about alcoholism and addiction in general, and the better equipped you'll be to make decisions about this relationship and your life. Please do check out as many of the various threads as you can, and don't miss the stickies at the top of the page. They're an excellent way to educate yourself. Here's an example of a stickied thread:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
I'd also like to recommend Alanon for support for yourself. I know you want to help your A, but as you'll hear said here again and again, he has to want recovery himself. The only person whose actions you can control are your own, and putting the focus on yourself rather than him will help you see so much more clearly.
Again, glad you found SR, and I hope you find support and learning, not to mention inspiration, here w/us.