When I started down this sober road, my husband seemed to stop too. Then I noticed he seemed buzzed some nights. Then after a few months I decided he was hiding his beer. Probably for my sake he did that...maybe for his own. I've really appreciated the effort. I wish he would quit too, but taking it out of sight was actually a good thing for me. Not sure how I feel about concealing it, for him I mean, but I gotta say things improved around here starting in September. Step at a time I guess.
I hate confrontation too Grace. So, I get it. Marriage has to include communication is what I always try and tell myself at least.