Hi concernedBF,
Welcome
her behavior sounds a lot like mine prior to facing that alcohol was causing havoc in my life. It sounds like she has built up a high tolerance to alcohol. The fact that she left a glass half full, from her
2nd bottle doesn't mean she is able to stop herself. Unfortunately, she ultimately has to be open to changing or you will just frustrate yourself trying to convince her. I too have great qualities, but before I was ready to take wine out of the equation, I ruined relationships, lost people's respect, including my own self respect. I wish you well, but I'd be cautious with commitment until she decides which is more important. Until someone is fully committed to abstinence, the poison always wins.