I am in counseling and have attended two different Al Anon groups, but it didn't help me much...it was about ten years ago though, so I can try again.
I have trouble telling myself that the sober and the A are different...I feel like I am abandoning him if I just divorce. I'm the only one he has left now. I am definitely separating, as soon as I can find a place, but I don't know when it's okay come back. Do I tell him to quit drinking? Does he need to take abuse classes since he's only fought when he's drunk? How long does he need to be sober?
, I've even thought of calling the cops on him when he's leaving the bar so he gets a DWI and to be on probation, but my counselor told me that still wouldn't make him quit.
