For anyone who has been reading this, I am ACOA, RA, and a DV survivor. I still stand by what I originally said, always will. See as an Acoa, I never knew what was normal, that is why I got involved and thought DV situations were "normal". I guess I could have gone through my lifetime believing this, that it was normal, but I had questions. I asked, a lot of times I didn't like the answer, I was just trying to fix things, and I somewhat turned away, but I kept reading. Some may not. The ones in the worst situation may not, and that is why I thought I would bring this up. I know this is an old topic, and I am sorry about that, that I brought this up again.
So many times we can just relate to black and white areas, just remember there is always the outside of the box, the gray area.