Oh, WTBH -- we're in a small town with not a lot of options. Basically, the option we have is a HS program for kids who have been incarcerated or got pregnant in middle school or have such severe behavior problems that they're considered risks for other students. Not an ideal place, I think.
DH has been crunching the numbers to see if we could get by on his income -- homeschooling has been discussed -- but I don't think that's a great solution. It would solve the problem of getting through courses and learning academically, but such a great part of her need is relationship building, and doing it in an environment where you can't control context and where you can't just walk away when things go south...