Nice to meet you, though these must be trying circumstances for you. So glad you're reaching out for support. That's a really important step in your recovery. I know it was in mine. I have a hard time asking for help or admitting that something is too much for me to handle. Alanon meetings are also really good. You will find a lot of common ground with people at meetings. It really helped me not to feel so isolated.
You mentioned that you think your husband is finally ready to get help. Has he taken any steps in that direction? (Tell me to myob if you want. Don't want to get all up in your business here)
Again, welcome. Hugs and strength to you.