Hi Luna, and welcome to SR.
I know how much it hurts to love an addict.
It sounds like you've had some other painful experiences in your life. I'm so sorry to hear that. Are you by any chance an ACOA? Are you currently in any sort of counseling? I think a lot of us here, in similar situations to yourself, have found a combination of personal therapy and Alanon to be very helpful. Good Luck to you. Keep posting.
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