I love that this is here.
I have trouble expressing how much my FOO affected me. So many think we should get over it when we are adults. I feel sorry for my mother and I forgive her since she really didn't have the desire or the ability to self-examine - I think her castle would have crumbled and she knew it.
Forgiving is one thing, it gives me a certain sense of relief from the pain, but forgetting is something I haven't mastered. My subconscious just throws stuff out randomly. I think that is the value of meditation, the realization of the "files" in my head that my computer brain randomly accesses. It is up to my own cursor to decide which ones to act upon or to choose to keep. The rest - the super destructive files, I try to put in a folder that is at the bottom of the index. They stay there most of the time if I keep using my anti-virus of recovery and spiritual fitness. Sometimes I forget to update though, and some of those files resurface for a while.
Thanks for this thread. I'm all in.