Well, at least understand this part real clear -- Behavior Like THAT is NOT "Working the Program."
Folks who actually work the program, are learning from the meetings, doing the Steps and working with a Sponsor . . . sort of become kind, gracious and spiritual people.
Folks faking it -- Not So Much.
Do you understand what and how Program works? Maybe from the Alanon side?
Here is the AA Big Book -- Free Online -- A VERY Good Read, btw. That is a start into this . . . .
Big Book Online Fourth Edition