Welcome to SR. I'm female and (apart from the children which I didn't have) that was almost my story too. I didn't quit at 31 though despite my good intentions. I waited till I was nearly 40 and wasted nearly another decade of my life with things getting worse. I almost didn't realize it when it was happening.It was only when I took a step back that I saw how bad things had become.
Well done to you for realizing you have a problem and want to make changes. Coming to SR is a great start and has been a lifeline for me. I'm 17 months sober now and my life has changed immeasurably since quitting drinking. This can be you too.
