I think it was Hammer who said "Pain drives their train". I think him being this upset might be a good thing, it could be the motivator he needs to find real sobriety.
And for the guys at work? I smell a Quack! Unless he works with psychics and fortune tellers. That sounds like manipulation to me.
Originally Posted by
asm505 
I feel like all these years he didn't care that I was hurting so why should I feel bad - awful, I know!
We reap what we sow. And it's not awful. What's awful is what he's done to damage the marriage to the point that you actually feel this way.