Ah, james, once you accept the fact that you cannot moderate, the freedom you might feel is amazing
When I knew that drinking was out of the equation, I could also say goodbye to obsessing over the alcohol content of wine and the number of glasses I could have; wondering how I could possibly pace myself once I'd got the taste; agonising about whether or not to get the next bottle; worrying about getting home; panicking about what I might do or say, etc etc
This is a much easier way to live