Originally Posted by
asm505 
Which is my next question...if he would follow through and get sober how many times does one deal with relapses? Chances are it will happen and I already feel like I am at the end of my rope...would it be unfair for me to say ok we will work on this but you slip up and I am done? Doesnt seem very nice to me but I cant relive the past again.
No, I don't think it's unfair. You can set your own"rules" for what you're willing to deal with. You've dealt with lot already, and if you're not up to another relapse then so be it.
Ya know, we don't have to be martyrs for them. We don't have to sacrifice our happiness, health, and lives for them just to be nice. I know my AH doesn't make a lot of sacrifices for me, he can be very very selfish and self centered. Somebody has to look out for our wants and needs and I think it has to be US.
Do you what you feel is best for
you.