Originally Posted by
Sober April28 
.......So ask yourself... Can i let his past issues completely go? And be honest, don't worry about feeling bad or hurting him. He doesn't and i didn't feel bad eather. If you have a hint of hesitation towards the idea of forgiving him and moving on don't waste your life on it. You will have to completely forgive him. After he has years of sobriety under has belt. You have to remember us alcoholics wire our family's to feel sorry for us. So u will enable us. Feeling sorry or bad is enabling us. So stop! You didn't or don't deserve that burden. This addiction of our is only ours to own. Not yours.
Sober makes very good points, from the "other side" so to speak. It wasn't until my XABF went into Rehab that I realized that perhaps he wasn't the only clown in the circus. I may not be the alcoholic but why did I "choose" to try and fix him, and everybody else around me? I had to take a cold hard look at who I was and at my own behaviors. Keep reaching out for support! (((Hugs)))