Lily, I agree with what you are saying. Good for you.
LMN...there is a fine line between forgiveness because someone is sorry for their behavior and is actually seeking forgiveness, which means not repeating that same behavior over and over. (The definition of INSANITY BTW is repeating the same actions over and over and expecting a different result...hmmmm). There is something you can do for YOU. Not live with the resentments and weight of it all on your shoulders. Set up boundaries that you can stick with, work toward goals of what brings you happiness in life.
Letting go of resentments is certainly a positive, but if we don't change anything and just pile them back up over and over it becomes to look a lot like Insanity, just mentioning!
I think you are diving deep into your feelings and that is a great thing my friend!
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