Maybe I don't understand in the same way you do.
I just know what I know. I have dealt with a very unpredictable X who abuses alcohol with Xanax. I understand he has done things that I look at him and would not believe he did those things if I did not have proof. So I know all about the unpredictability of the addict.
I do understand that addicts can be dangerous. I understand you have to protect yourself. I also understand if you enable them the behavior continues. Like a good little girl I usto call in my X's Xanax RX and pick it up for him, knowing full well what he would do. To me, that is just a rinse and repeat cycle. I know that something has to break the cycle. I also know that is normally not the addict that breaks the cycle unless they are forced by consequences. Not every time, but many.
I don't know the answer and I won't. No one does, or we would not be here. It just seems to me that if you are going to take the approach of speaking to the doctor that is a way to do so. I certainly cannot tell someone what to do same as any of you telling them what not to do. I am not a certified specialist in any way, I have nothing but experience. Some of it has worked, some not.
As always on this board, anything I say, take what you want and leave the rest.