Thank you PBC and Dee! Both of your posts are extemely helpful. PBC, I need to cut and paste your door analogy and put it in my sobriety journal.
I had such a great thing happen this afternoon. I came home from doing the after-school thing, dropping kids off, picking them up, going back to the grocery store for the stuff I forgot this morning, etc. I pulled into the garage and my 10 year old was standing at the door with a sheepish look on her face. Uh-oh. But wait: she had tidied up the whole first floor of the house! Without being asked! I screamed like a woman who had just won the lottery! If there was ever any doubt about what my love language is, I think it is safe to say acts of service gets my vote.