Hi, your story sound like mine. i finally told my spouse and he was relieved that i had realized I have a problem and tells me I am brave to seek help. But he also thinks that I will with time be able to moderate. I think it is really hard for "normal" drinkers to understand the feeling when you are an alcoholic and crave more drinks. It is not just to stop. I found it surpisingly easy to tell people I donīt drink (although I manage only very short stretches of sobriety so I am no expert..). I tell them that I discovered have more fun sober, that alcohol doesnīt make me feel well. Most people donīt seem to mind and drop the subject. At work I say I plan to excersise the next day or that I am driving as I have a job where I really donīt want people to know.
Good luck on your journey!