Originally Posted by
HealthFirst 
The reason I feel I need help is that when I start drinking, I often do so until I can't remember what I did or said.
If you are getting this drunk, even 10% of the time, I doubt it's a secret from your wife, meaning she already knows you have a problem with alcohol. Unless she drinks as much as you, I'd think she'd welcome hearing you say you want to quit.
Good luck.