Thanks for those thoughtful replies. My dilemma has been that I don't want to go to the trouble of joining a recovery program or AA or something if I'm not really an alcoholic. But I think I could live a better life without hangovers and blackouts and the fear of not remembering what I've done when I'm drunk. So yeah, I really want to stop drinking because when I drink, all those rotten things happen.
What makes me think I'm not an alcoholic is that I don't need to drink every day.
I see what you mean though - drunk or alcoholic are just words. My life needs fixing.