We have been in counseling for two months now...he says it's been helping.
Is it helping
you?
when it gets to the point that I'm compromising myself in order to accommodate his alcoholism and allowing myself to be belittled and abused, then it becomes a choice.
How long is too long to hang on? At what point do you say, ok, this is it?
If you ask me, every day you allow yourself to be belittled and abused is a day you are harmed and hurt and diminished. Every day you allow that makes it harder to leave.
I thought I could handle it. That I was stronger. That my love would be enough. I spent 20 years married to an abusive alcoholic. I've been divorced for four. So I would say every day you hang on to an abusive relationship is too long. But I also know that saying it is easier than leaving.