Originally Posted by
Wisconsin 
Here's the thing about anger...it is a total legitimate emotion, of course. But like any emotion, it needs to be expressed in a way that minimizes unnecessary harm to other peoples (and to oneself). That's true for all feelings, in my opinion, but it is just more obvious with anger because anger can turn so quickly into abuse for many of us.
So my feelings aren't that anger = out of control. It's more like anger expressed in deliberately hurtful or abusive ways = out of control.
I agree with that statement. I didn't know the difference until I started learning more of who I am. I cry in an argument and never could understand why. I wanted to be tuff girl but was a crying baby instead. Now I am learning and applying my tools I have and can see a difference.