I'm of the "feel sorry for the poor twit who got stuck with him" camp. I think it was BoxinRotz who suggested the other day that someone write the new woman a thank you card. But in all seriousness, this has nothing to do with you. It always has been and always will be about his alcoholism, and his need to protect it. Given his dry drunk behavior and 13th Stepping, I'll put my money on him diving off the wagon before long. You deserve better!