Ligy

My boyfriend is currently in a long term treatment facility. I love him dearly. And have had to see how self destructive this disease can be. My only wish is that he can live a happy and fulfilling life in sobriety. Before he went into treatment I would encourage him to go to meetings. As I saw him take a turn for the worst, his family and I did an intervention, which turned out to be successful. He willingly went to treatment and he took it a step further on deciding to do long term. Together, we would call facilities inquiring thier amenties, structure of program, and most importantly if they accepted his insurance.

Before he left, I brought to his attention that maybe it would be a good idea if we took a break. Not break up, just space and time for him to focus on himself. He said if that was something I feel I needed to do then he would accept that, but it's not what he wanted. He said that our relationship was great. He said we get along, we share the same interests and goals, never argued about anything and the only issue in the relationship was his active drug use which he plans of taking care of. I couldn't agree more. Our only arguments (mainly one sided on my part) was when he would disappear for 2-3 days at a time. If I saw he was him high, I would verbalize my aggravation and told him it upset me to see him like that. And of he would always deny he was high.

Which brings me to my point, he is in treatment now. He sounds great and happier than ever. He calls me everyday for about 10 mins. It doesn't bother me. And actually it makes me so happy hear from him. I know he is focusing on himself. So am I. I'm doing things that I wasn't doing before such as getting reacquainted with old friends, making new ones, going to the gym and spending more time with my family. I'm spending him a care package this weekend. I'm thinking I should bring up the " let's take a break so u can focus more on yourself" conversation. I don't know how to though. And truthfully, it's not what I want. But maybe this will be good for the both of us. I'm trying to see the positive side, but I can't, honestly. I just know it's a conversation that has to happen. And I know that's what his counselor is going to tell him about us. But I'd rather beat them to the punch. Maybe it will hurt less that way. I'm also planning on going to Naranon meetings. So we'll see what happens...what is meant to be will always find it's way. That's what I keep telling myself