Doc - I experienced a similar thing with my wife. Although I would have been content with being ignored given the alternative. It eventually escalated to physical confrontations (I was on the receiving end which took the ultimate self control not to retaliate). I sat down with her one night and asked her if she wanted to stay married. I told her to either forgive me for what I did or serve me papers. There was no way that I was going to go on forever living under those conditions. In return I agreed to forgive her for what she did.
It was somewhat more complicated in my situation because my wife had gone insane at certain points (literally I started taking steps to get her involuntarily committed).