what works for me.....
I would not interfere under the circumstances you describe. there was a time I would have went all out and got to the root of it all. not now.
who am I to think I know the answers?
who am I to believe that I have the right solutions?
why do I think it is my duty?
these are some of the questions I ask myself when trying to decide if it is best to get involved.
usually, people already know what they need to know in their personal situations. they have already made their decision by staying in the relationship.
it's when they ask for my help that I try to do what I can.