Thank you, everyone. I will hold off saying anything. Too conflicted and most folks think its a bad idea. In my life I would want to know, but he is not me. BF thinks he would shoot the messenger and message would be lost. he isn't computer savvy, so he won't see it and she could change it quickly if confronted. they are toxic and i should continue to keep my distance. i wish i could help him, but he is comfortable in his denial and never listens to me anyway.