Red flags arise from me whenever I hear anyone say something to the effect of, "This is what I need YOU to do in order for me to do/get/feel better."
This says to me that the other person is absolving their responsibility for their own well-being, as well as for the relationship between us.
This says to me that the other person is trying to control me.
This says to me that the other person wants to make their problem, my problem.
This does NOT say to me, "I deserve your respect."