Originally Posted by
grammy52 
I am supposed to go on Monday & put down my deposit on the apartment, I am waffling. I even sent another email yesterday to my daughter asking her where we stand? Is this what you want? Can we work out the problems? I got nothing in return, just nothing.
Being an alcoholic nothing made me become sober until I wanted to be sober. That really was the bottom line for me anyways.
When I was drinking, all I wanted was my booze. Nothing else really mattered. Because I knew that someone would clean up for me. Until the day came where that stopped. And finally the day came where I wanted sobriety more than the booze.
It sounds to me that she is not ready yet to give it up. And for most of us, you can't really "make" us give it up.
I personally think you should put down your deposit. I am so sorry you are in this situation. We are not an easy bunch to tolerate that is for sure!