Originally Posted by
BigShoe 
Good luck man. Be honest and true. What a conundrum. If you don't have a disease she has no need to be in a support group for it. Sounds like you have come a long way and you need to catch her up.
Good luck. If you find extra luck send some my way for similar reasons.
Thanks. Yes, this is very difficult. I think that my drinking and using really served a purpose to keep our relationship in this sort of dysfunctional, unhealthy, but somehow oddly functional space. But I don't drink or use now - ever, because I don't want to, because it's something I don't do anymore. I also don't suck things up anymore and pretend I don't have feelings of my own. So yes, I'm in a conundrum. Thank you for listening.