Well, well
After a couple of Al Anon meetings and some back and forth with my A brother I am seeing how I have been enabling him
I have to say that what floors me is how GOOD he is at playing my emotions,
I swear if he used half that energy on something BESIDES "Poor me, you all can do what you want but my life is crap etc etc"
I am beginning to see that there is a component of playing helpless and hopeless and using emotional hooks from childhood that are SO manipulative and so out of character to who he USED TO BE.
My brother has actually been gone a long time, decades even.
Thank god for Al Anon, thank god I can start to see how I am playing into his game, even when I feel he isn't even aware of his behaviour anymore, it's just who he is now.
