Originally Posted by
atalose 
Potential often means - a fixer upper. Someone you can mold, fix, repair and love to the potential you assume they have.
Potential often means – WE don’t “feel” right in a relationship unless there is someone to fix, mend or repair.
Took me while to accept this, I HAD to be the one in control because he obviously couldnt "Get it together"...wow, talk about manipulation!! It wasnt an easy pill to swallow.
Originally Posted by
lillamy Love doesn't heal addiction. And when I left the alcoholic I was married to, a friend from Al-Anon told me that "you may just have done him the biggest favor anyone ever will" -- by NOT trying to cushion the consequences from his drinking anymore.
God, did this one hit a nerve. I know I did my A's more harm than good. But like lillamy mentioned many times over "When you know better, you do better!"
You sound like u are on the right track!!
