Shouldn't Be Surprised!
Yesterday started out badly. The children went to church with my MIL, and started off, saying he was going to get ice for the meat in the cooler...but of course I knew deep down what that meant. We were 'supposed' to go to his AAunt's house about an hour away.
My children came home from church. My 15 yo son starts SCREAMING at me, "MOM, I can't believe you two! Dad's down there at Uncle's getting drunk, and you're not ready to go! We can't go now because Dad's drunk and I really want to go!"
"Son, we can still go. I am ready all I have to do is get dressed. I will take you and your brothers up there myself. We will leave Dad here."
NO! this is all your fault! Dad's down there drinking so we can't go!
NONE of the children would go without their father.
Of course, son goes down in the car and gets his father. Here he comes with a beer in hand. I LIT INTO HIM. SON LIT INTO HIM. Other children ran off.
Screaming match ensued for well over an hour and he was not budging. I only had one and we're going!
I was so upset! The children refused to go without him. I got blamed for wrecking their holiday. So all I could do was pray that the rest of the day went ok, and it did. He had only one beer a few hours later, but I watched him like a hawk. I hate doing that. When it's our lives on the line, I gotta know when he's had too much so I can take the keys.
Son was so angry. Mom, I don't want to talk about it. Dad won't talk to me now. Son, I am so sorry your father doesn't understand, but nobody in this house is responsible for his drinking.
I think I'm going to have to fight tooth and toenail to get these boys into Alateen. It's time. Seeing my son fall apart like that, and then I LOST it. I would have been ok if my son hadn't come in, screaming at me, yk?
My poor precious children. I need to figure out something else.
Sue