Sometimes when I see people post stuff like this, someone will mention the insanity of expecting those who hurt us to be the ones to heal us. I know I've certainly expected the A in my life to be the one to "make it better", and yeah, I guess that is nuts...
I think meggy said it all--there is no easy way thru this. We just have to keep on trudging ahead, believing that somewhere, at some point we can't see yet, things will be better. I know that's true for me--compared to where I was a year ago, I've learned and grown a lot, and am only beginning to sense what might really be possible if I can let go of the fear.