Three and a half years is a long time to watch someone kill his self with crack. How awful for you. He has a choice, and it looks like he chooses to just give up. Perhaps with no one around to make him feel supported in his behavior, he may wake up.
I am sorry you are going through this. You have a choice too, in what sort of life you want to be living. Watching a crack addict do his thing is a pure waste of life.
stick around and read the stories here. and stick around for the support that you will find an abundance of.
You can't change him. And cant love him into changing-obviously after three and a half years, he hasn't been moved to change.
its very sad. I hate drugs, and hate how they rob everyone involved.
It would not be selfish, or uncaring for you to decide to live a happy life, away from someone who wants to self destruct.
hugs to you.
chicory