horriblethisis---Yes!!! this is giant manipulation. Massive denial, minimizing and hitting all of your buttons.
But, then, you knew that this would be the likely outcome....right?
Don't let his silken tongue, which does not match his actions, cause you to doubt yourself.
If you buy what he is selling--he IS going to mop the kitchen floor with you...
This is the time to be strong.
dandylion