finding....there is a program of recovery for you and only you. it is not about him at all.
it's all about us....the family and friends of alcoholics. and it is free.
I can't remember.....have you joined an al-anon family?
the connections I made in my al-anon family led me to develop deep, profoundly healthy relationships with others that still foster my recovery to this day.
many activities involved, also. it truly becomes a family.
I went kicking and screaming at first.....it took me 6 months before I could even breathe correctly during a meeting. I spent those 6 months crying, sobbing, out of control, challenging every step and tradition they had.
but, after pushing through it and coming out the other side, the rewards have been bountiful.
I came through it, with war stripes and battle scars, and will always have remnants of past, but.......I came through it.
still need lots of help from time to time. always will. I can accept that.
thanks for this post....reminded me so much of the network of friends from the past on this forum.