Its unreal how some people decide for themselves what is best for others based on their own opinions of their own measure of success and failure. As if what they are challenged with is equal to what challenges a chronic alcoholic drinker, even though they don't claim themselves to be alcoholic or addicted.
Its pure hilarity when guys say they are not powerless and yet the back story to their lives plays out they can't drink anyways and before things get worse, they decide its time to quit. Absolute genius. And it took them years of drinking to come to that conclusion? Seriously? Oh ya! U got da power!! And always had it too!!
Not.
For most drinkers, they just need to have a good reason to quit. For some there is no good reason to quit. For most drinkers, consequences force the issues and quitting becomes the right thing to do. For some, consequences mean very little, and the drinking gets worse at any cost save dying. And even then for some death-by-drinking is the final worth of their lives...
Most drinkers who quit are not claiming to be alcoholic. Most drinkers don't quit for everyday of their lives, they really just don't want trouble and so drinking socially remains attractive and desired. They say they want it, but they can't do it right... and they still claim to not be addicted alcoholically...
Most humans who ever drink alcohol will not die directly because of their drinking. Most will not struggle with socially drinking. Most will never be on a recovery forum sharing experiences they have never had. Most have nothing with alcohol to recover from.
It is for me such a joke how many guys want to share on a recovery forum how they quit finally drinking as if they are the examples to follow for those who fail at quitting time and time again because they are addicted alcoholics, and not because they simply haven't yet heard all the great advice, lol.
Yeah, people need to share what they got, since we can't give away what we don't have, but this doesn't mean people have all been down the same road with alcohol with all of us learning the same things. It also doesn't mean we're all walking down the same road with sobriety ether - and that's okay. Being ourselves is everything. We give what we got unless we believe we got nothing to give... not many drinkers got nothing to give. Still, just believing we got nothing to give can destroy a life just as easily enough.
What we believe in and what we don't believe in for ourselves makes the real difference in why and how we quit drinking, stay quit, and get on with living.
