The difference between my story and some that I see here is that my husband had to be convinced that I have a problem. He had no idea that I drank every nite. I had become so acclimated to 1, 2, 3 - sometimes more glasses if wine - that I guess I became good at hiding it. I haven't done anything crazy with my kids - no big drama. Just the dependence on that nightly fix - for years(it didn't start that way of course) and knowing that it will continue to progress and worsen if I don't quit. My heart was starting to go crazy each nite when the alc would wear off. And even though I wasn't getting uncontrollably drunk, I was still drinking every nite- and being sneaky about it. And revolving my life in many ways around having my "time". Maybe not as bad as it could be but bad enough for me.