Originally Posted by
Yurt 
It's funny how I can feel calm and patient during the drinking episodes (well, not completely; I lost 30 pounds this year from the stress), yet feel so agitated and wobbly when he is somewhat sober. Not sure if it is because I am waiting for the other shoe to drop, or if it is because he does not pass out at 7 pm any more and give me some respite like he did when he was drinking heavily. I just know that tonight, I could not stand to be around him.
I can relate! When my SO got out of the hospital and didn't drink at all for a week I had no idea how to handle it. That's when it really dawned on me how much of a problem this is. He was still up at 8 pm, sober and just...around. I'm used to him either passed out on the sofa or in his own little world. Part of me got angry at myself because I had let myself get used to his alcoholism and the other part of me was in a state of shock.
Of course, the sobriety didn't last long. But my eyes are still open.