Yurt, I, too waited for the "big thing" to happen. I was miserable the last two-three years of our marriage and badly wanted out.... but I was too paralyzed by fear, obligation, guilt, and more guilt! to make a move. In my case, the big thing DID happen. My STBXAH snapped, had an altercation with my 15 year old son. DS had had it. He moved out. The fallout from that has been incredibly painful for all of us. My relationship with ds may never be the same again. If ds ever forgives his father and re-establishes their relationship, I have no doubt that relationship will never be the same. I so wish I had had the courage to just make the break sooner. I think your original plan of leaving during the summer is a good one. Less than 2 months, right? You
can do this, Yurt. Your dream of a little cottage sounds wonderful
