I was just sitting here journaling and stopped to lurk a bit.
When I first dated my husband that always having a drink thing bothered me. But he had job, a home, was responsible, we had a lot in common (other than the drink thing) and it bugged me but it just didn't seem like a BIG problem, just something that bugged me.
Fast forward 15 years and I lived through hell for 8 of them. (well still going through hell but nearing the other side) The first few years were good and slowly the drinking and the problems that come along with it increased. And before I knew it I was knee deep in a bad situation. Just like most everyone, I thought if I did the right things we could work it out.
I do not think coming back here makes you look like a fool, in fact I see your post as a person that is aware of the risks of getting deeply involved with someone that may have a drinking problem and that you may be considering how important this relationship is to your own sanity.