Flip this around....if you lost a parent and had been no contact with him for a month, would he and his Aunt prep a gift basket for you with kindness and compassion? NO THEY WOULD NOT.
I give to those who reciprocate....the nursing home where my mother spent the last 3 years of her life are filled with very many people who would be thrilled to get a little gesture....If that doesn't work for you, a giant box of dog biscuits to the local animal shelter.