Listen to your gut don't ignore it.
I would have to see significant sobriety before I would marry. Like 2 years minimum. Even so know that there are issues that come with people in recovery.
Spend some time on here reading other's stories. Certainly people who have not had any issues are not going to be on here, or maybe they don't exist.
Its a lot to take on. Most of us I would guess had no idea what we would be dealing with. If I had it to do over………..I'm not sure. I love my RAH he is a good man. Its been A LOT to have to deal with. Today I wouldn't trade him for the world but I do not feel that all the time.
We got together when we were older. We did not want children. Neither of us have kids from previous relationships. If kids were involved in some of what I have had to deal with we would NOT be together.