Hi,
In regard to detachment, I've grown to learn that it comes when you are ready for that space. I think we all get to that point in our own time. For me, as I'm detach learning mode, I decided to begin detachment because I got tired of being dismissed by him for his booze & drugs. I got tired it, simply put. Do thoughts kick in- sure, but I'm learning thank God to cope & breath through those moments- I remember something painful or upsetting about being with him- then that moment fades, thank God. Take care of yourself, you are supported here. "SR Angels" is what I call you guys! You're in my prayers for detachment, freedom, happiness & love. Xo, Bernadette777