I just stumbled across this thread, goodness me, Im an alcoholic and I can see what he's doing. I would explain to him you cant do this anymore, unless he gets help you will walk. You see, the thing with alcoholics is they always think things will be ok, he didnt mean what he said to you, he was drunk. Im not giving any excuses, but in a drinkers mind they rationalise everything. If he is still the man you loved then urge him to get help.